How to get some weight off your shoulders

Life Coach Angie Ilg sitting outside on a sunny day

Sometimes self-care and self-nurturing are the last things on our to-do lists. But what can happen is that we wind up feeling disconnected from ourselves, exhausted, and unhappy. And if we’re highly sensitive we need even more self-care than others. Learn an easy life coaching tool to lighten your load and shift from a negative mindset into a more positive one.

Hi loves, I have lots to share with you, but some of it is gonna have to wait.

Here's why: During this pandemic time, I'm doing my best to take care and to nurture myself. I believe that if we don't do this, we can't bring our gifts out into the world. So that's meant a lot of time restoring my energy, recovering my creativity, and relearning what my nervous system needs to thrive.

Maybe some of you have been feeling the heaviness of this time. I know I have. I woke up this morning and was feeling that heavy sadness that has been around so much lately. So, I let myself get all my complaints and problems out on paper. It actually did not feel that good to do! Haha! But, good to acknowledge what’s going on in my head. Then I followed it up with all the things that are going well or that I’m happy about. That list was actually much longer. So many things I didn’t have top of mind, and it felt really good to bring them to mind.

It didn’t feel like spiritually bypassing, since I let myself get all the “problems” out first.

This is a simple tool that you can try out any time. You might be surprised at some of the good things happening that you forgot about. Not to mention giving yourself that time to feel heard and acknowledged, with no filter and no pressure to "positivize" any of it. Give it a try! And let me know in the comments below how it goes.

Sending you love and light, and wishes for all the support and care you're needing!

With love,

Angie

p.s. Yes, that is a GIANT nest that I had the pleasure of relaxing in this weekend 😄 Talk about nurturing!

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Sensitivity ToolsAngie IlgMay 22, 2020Angie IlgLife Coaching Tools, letting go, self-care, self-care for hsp2 Comments